How to be faithful
By Sandra M. Thomas
Devotion
is a strong love for someone or something. When love is felt you are more likely to stay faithful. Being faithful reduces the stress caused from
infidelity. Working together as a
partnership will ease the need for separations.
1. Choose your partner carefully. Ask yourself does this person stimulate my
mind and my body? Take time to get to know each other. Early in a relationship infatuation blurs our
judgment causing illusions. Doing
things together connects couples together.
2. Don’t hold grudges. Learn to forgive. There are going to be disappointments time to
time. Remember no one is perfect. Keep the lines of communication open. Talk and listen to each other regularly. Learning to agree to disagree keeps the
communication flowing.
3. Love
each other unconditionally. Enjoy intimacy with each other by finding enticing
ways to please your partner. Try buying
candles, fragrances, oils, incense and toys. Surprise your partner with some sexy undergarments.
4. Resist temptation. Problems are going to
happen that will cause doubts. Brush off negative feelings because negativity
causes destruction. When you are
swimming in doubt learn to resist temptation. Remember never make choices based on doubts.
5. Avoid slander. Don’t solicit opinions from
others about your relationship. The only
opinion that matters in a relationship is the partnership.
6. Express your
feelings. Make your partner feel special
everyday.
Redemption
By Sandra M. Thomas
The decisions made in life sometimes leads to redemption. In
order to be free from anything one must redeem the past. Redemption is
admitting your sins and to ask for forgiveness. The good news is that
the only person who can do this is you. It is only after we have lost
everything that we are free to do anything. When forced to look within
ourselves we find the strength to become free.
Freedom enables abilities within. Independence and
deliverance can lead anyone to their dreams. When we become powerless
we are subsequently displaying lack of faith and discipline. In order
for us to gain courage we must redeem ourselves through redemption.
Admitting our sins and forgiving our sins releases chains of bondage.
Addictions In Relationships: Addiction to Alcohol
By: Cucan Pemo
There is no relationship that can breed more frustration and unhappiness than a relationship where one of the partners is an alcoholic. Such a relationship will be marked by constant arguments, financial turmoil, emotional blackmail and even physical abuse. It is a relationship where one partner is always at the receiving end, and lives on the hope that the addict will kick the habit one day.
What to expect in such relationships
These relationships can only bring unhappiness. There is bound to be loneliness, despair, and at times rage at what the addict is doing. There will also be constant confrontations. But these confrontations instead of driving the couple apart, often unite them.
This happens because of the helplessness displayed by addicts. The addicts break down at such confrontations pleading helplessness and beg support. They also make promises of moving away from the addiction, and never to hit the bottle again. It is this helplessness that pushes the other partner to provide the necessary emotional support. Unfortunately, this cycle of support-confrontation-support keeps getting vicious and vicious only.
Why can't individuals break out of such cycles
Most would think that there is enough reason for a suffering mate to walk out of such a relationship. But this does not always happen. The partners invariably find a reason to stay on. This may be on account of fear of a future without financial security, an obsessive love for the mate, a fear of public disapproval or the need to keep the family together.
Sometimes the partners convince themselves that without them the addict will die. They therefore avoid doing anything that may hurt the addict. Some even convince themselves, that they alone can help the addict give up the bottle.
Whatever the reason, the partners convince themselves that they need to stay on, and that everything will be fine one day. The addicts make full use of such prevarication, and indulge in more emotional blackmail, and subtle arm-twisting.
How to identify if you are such a person
You are in danger of entering into such a relationship if you show the following characteristics:
1. You refuse to end the relationship even though you know that the relationship is bad for you, your career and your personal life.
2. You find reasons for sustaining the relationship even though you know that your logic is convoluted.
3. The thought of breaking the relationship throws you in a state of confusion, even panic, and you cling on, even more strongly, to it.
4. You suffer physical discomfort when you try to move to a place where your mate can't reach you, and you yearn to get back to him.
What should you do to save the relationship
You first need to strengthen yourself. In this quest, you should not allow your morals or principles to weaken your resolve. Be ruthless in dealing with the addict. Treat addiction as a disease that needs to be cured. Don't give in to emotional blackmail because then you will only end up feeding the disease.
Look upon yourself as an equal partner in the relationship. Don't be manipulated into believing that you are the rescuer or a victim of an unfortunate relationship. Let the addict know that you have no desire to become a martyr for his cause. You must make sure that you do not accept the lies offered by the addict. As any psychologist will tell you, addicts are very adept at coming up with explanations that sound very convincing. This is how they delude themselves into continuing with their addiction, and forcing their loved ones into becoming unwitting partners in their addiction game.
You need to find a support group that understands your pains and sorrows, and can also help you overcome them. You will realize that you were blundering in a maze in your effort to salvage the relationship. The support group will show you the path to come out of the emotional maze that your subconscious mind has built, and also give you the strength to take that path.
You should even consider getting professional help. This may sound shocking to you initially because it is not you but your addict mate who needs professional help. But counseling can come in very useful in such a situation. It will give you the necessary emotional and mental strength to tackle the relationship blues.
Don't stumble from crisis to crisis
You must give yourself sufficient time to either salvage the relationship or get out of it. Don't become a slave of the addict because it will only suck you deeper and deeper into a world of unhappiness.
If you realize that you can't change your mate then you must walk out of the relationship, however painful your action may be. You should feel no guilt or remorse because you gave the relationship the best shot possible.
Now it is time for you to rebuild your life.
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What You Know
Life is like a coin with two sides,it has the good side of GOD and the bad side of the devil.
God and devil has different functioning mechanism ,which without
missing words are opposite in nature,the case is like this;while GOD
uses angels for assignment the devil uses agent,when GOD manifest plans
the devil manipulate plans,when GOD uses miracle as a tool the devil
uses magic and when GOD uses knowledge to empower humans,the devil uses
ignorance to fight mankind.
Ignorance is the back bone of the devil's trouble to mankind,it is a
dark cloud over humanity,it is the greatest mountain to mankind,the
blind spot that blind fold and lead generation into a pit of
destuction,the monster that kill away dreams,that is because in life
you are the product of what you know,it is so simple,if you don't know
you will be low,life is not about size or muscular build up,it is about
what you know(knowledge).
It might amaze you to know that those that win bout are not the most
muscular, but the most knowledgeable in their field.like you will
always know the size of goliath has nothing to do with the success of
young david,neither does the age of menthuselar has anything to do with
the wisdom of king solomon,all this happen, because there are secrets
that david and solomon knows about their GOD, that was far from the duo
of menthuselar and goliath. Life is not about how strong or physical a
man is, but how much a man knows to change his world.Men of wealth are
not always muscular in body built, but they are in their knowledge,they
are no magician,their wealth is no mystery,they only put their
knowledge to work and rule their world.
Let no one shy away from the truth ,if you know better you will do
better,success is a delibrate attempt,it does not just happen,it comes
when you knowingfully strategize plans to excel.
What you know put money in your pocket and food on your table,like the
bible says the gift of a man will make a way for him and a man gift is
what the person knows,so don't just sit down and expect manners to fall
from heaven,don't be foolish to sleep,slumber and toy with time because
they all lead to poverty.
so i admonish you to go in search for knowledge and do better than your
mate,if deligent enough you can multiply and excel beyound your own
imagination.
This is no fairy tale those that are excelling do not have two
heads,neither are they finer than you ,but what they have done is
killing ignorance and embracing knowledge,a product of GOD,so go start
acquiring knowledge now,don't stop,don't look back until you have
filled yourself with knowledge,then be rest assured that you are the
next world celebrity.
Published: 2008-09-08
Author: igbinosa ikponmwosa
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